You don't have to save the script as an app, simply save it as an AppleScript file and it will run all the same. It won't steal focus if you do it this way. I have tested this and it works.
set theFile to "/Users/me/Desktop/myscript.scpt"
tell application "iCal"
tell calendar "MyCalendar"
set theDate to (current date) + 1 * minutes
set theEvent to make new event at end with properties {summary:"it's a script!", description:"run the script", start date:theDate}
tell theEvent
make new open file alarm at end with properties {trigger date:theDate, filepath:theFile}
end tell
end tell
end tell