If your terminal shell has easy access to its own X window ID, you're probably doing something wrong! They have nothing to do with each other - e.g. you could (and should) be running long jobs inside screen which could in theory be outputting to any number of terminals anywhere in the world.
That being said, the way I solve this problem is by using the prompt's ability to update a terminal's "status"/"title" to report the shell's PID, as with the following prompt:
PS1=\u@\H:\w\$\ \[\e]2;\u@\H:\w [$$]\a\]
Any pseudo-terminal showing the shell with this prompt and PID 6399 have a title like user@host:~ [6399]. Then, using a tool like wmctrl, you can write a bash script such as this:
win_from_pid() {
type wmctrl &>/dev/null || return 1
wmctrl -l | awk '/^.*\['"$1"'\]$/ { print $1 }'
}
This searches the window list and gives you the X Window ID(s) of any ending with that title. Thus, the function win_from_pid $$ can tell you your window ID(s) on the same host running the script, if any. You can figure out how to determine focus from there. :)