You are right. In fact in EV cars(tesla etc) specialized firmware maintains charge between 30 & 80%. The battery never actually chrages upto 100%. It is also liquid cooled. This is to increase the life time of the battery. So two things are actually important: Heat and 100% charge. Both are harmful. You should not use it always at 100% charge, which is what will happen if you are always plugged in to AC adapter.
There is built in app for Samsung laptops & netbooks called Battery Life Extender which will limit charging to 80% in order to extend battery life. Try and find out if it is available for your laptop.
If you can't find an app, the only option is what I do in my ASUS G53, manually unplug it when it charged to 80-85% and replug when it is 20-25%. BatteryBar is Taskbar widget with modifiable settings for reminding you of ideal range.